How Can You Be Happily Married And Cheat? New Study Says It’s Possible

Here at our online divorce review site, we get a lot of visitors looking for a divorce due to infidelity on the part of their spouses.

While men are often maligned for cheating on their wives — and truthfully, they do still hold the edge — new studies have shown that women are closing that gap, and the reasons they do it are completely different. In fact, the latest study to come along even asserts that happily married women can and do cheat on their husbands.

The new research from affair dating site Ashley Madison looked at 100 heterosexual, married females between the ages of 35 and 45 and their online conversations with potential hookups. According to the findings, 67 percent of the women seeking an affair said they wanted more passion in their lives.

“The most predictable thing about a relationship is that the longer it progresses, the quality and the frequency of sex between the couple will fade,” said Eric Anderson, a professor of masculinity, sexuality and sport at the University of Winchester in England and a co-author of the study. “This is because we get used to and bored with the same body,” thus draining the marriage of intimacy and excitement.

When it came to the question of whether they wanted to leave their husbands, Anderson said that not a single participant wanted to, and that some even “stated their overt love for their husbands, painting them in a positive light.”

Most of the women also sought out affairs with monogamy in mind, which goes against the psychology of the cheating husband. In other words, when men cheat, they usually do so with multiple partners because they don’t want the attachment. Women, however, are looking to connect, the study said.

In both cases, infidelity installs a major roadblock for couples looking to reconcile because trust will always be an issue moving forward. It’s far better to have the awkward “sex” talks, seek counseling, and explore new depths of your existing relationship. A little restraint never hurt anyone either. But if you do find yourself facing a divorce, and you wonder how the Internet can help you, check out some of our online divorce reviews for attorney referrals or forms completion.